Fear is something I live with, but all of us do, don’t we? One of my main OCD traits is intrusive thoughts, so the fear of messing up and later having that agonizing embarrassment from replaying forever in my mind can be paralyzing.
The brain works in funny ways, and we all short-circuit our way through. When I am dealing with self-doubt, I have to remind myself that 99.9% of people I interact with on a casual basis will not remember the details.
I am not the center of the universe, and if they don’t care, why should I? My mortification is only noted by my brain, and they move on, and so should I.
I guess all of that to say the hackneyed old chestnut of facing your fears is what you need to do. I will grant you that it is easier said than done, and I have the mantra, “don’t overthink it.” That is even more ambitious.
So how do I deal with fear and self-doubt, really? Share it. Let someone know what is going on. Your dearest will offer you support and understanding. And if they don’t? Sadly, that would add to my neurosis, but hopefully, a lesson learned.
Try to have someone in your life you can talk to. Don’t be alone in this world. It’s hard to have self-doubt when someone believes in you. It’s hard to have fears when someone cares. And maybe you can return that, because they helped you overcome and they can overcome as well.
I guess the answer really is simple.
Find love.
Remain Lost 
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